TL;DR
43 year old, 6'3" ER physician turned investor/businessman looking across the US for a woman to support and complement in life partnership and children. Ideally kind, virtuous, ambitious, emotionally mature, and open to and likely able to have 3 or more biological kids (surrogacy is fine), but I am flexible on all but the deal breakers mentioned below. I am well groomed for the demands of being a husband and father. Flexible in terms of location as I am happy to bear all the costs (and time) of traveling for dates and moving as well. 😀
Why should you read this and the FAQ?
As I always try to do, I am following the golden rule of doing on to others as I would have them do unto me by making all this information available. I wish others provided more useful information about themselves (who they are, values, future goals, and preferences for dating, partner, friends, and networking) to help make it easier to assess compatibility and interest and know how to treat my date best with the dating experiences they enjoy the most. I do understand that many are initially turned off, confused, and triggered by this approach, but it helps me manage the time and stress of moving through the large volume of women on these app most enjoyably and efficiently to connect with those in which there is mutual interest in doing so. There are actually many useful strategies that others could consider implementing in their own dating to help them execute a more virtuous, efficient, and emotionally intelligent strategy. Please let me know if you have any ideas for other helpful information to include.
Why people benefit from and enjoy connecting with me: kind, transparent, efficient, emotionally mature, ambitious, successful, strong intellect, virtuous, and interest in making people's lives better through listening, learning, teaching, and investing in their growth. Try to embody good faith in all interactions.
Public Social Media Accounts
https://www.instagram.com/dwpaulde/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dillon-paul-md-b238a684/
https://www.facebook.com/woodchuck
Hardballing Strategy:
I (like many) am overwhelmed by the abundance and inefficiency of online dating, particularly the many vague and superficial profiles and lack of self-awareness, confidence, trust, and forthrightness (at a minimum I'd like to know your appearance, educational, and occupational background) that make it difficult to find those in which we have mutual interest in connecting. To help streamline the process, I created this website to outline information about who I am including values and preferences (but I'd prefer you share your interests and preferences so I can simply accommodate to yours if I find them acceptable), and what I look for in women with which to befriend, network, and date. My hope is to reduce the time needed for me to answer and ask important basic fundamental dating questions helpful to assess mutual compatibilty and interest and help make it easier for the women who have the emotional intelligence, availability, values, goals, interests, and personality find me for dating, friendship, and/or networking. The women with whom I like connecting have tons of men wanting to connect with them, as do I have many women who want to connect with me, so it saves us both a lot of time finding the ideal people to connect with by simply being detailed and transparent immediately and less ideal to repeatedly go through the process of drawing information out of people to figure out if we are interested in making connections with each other. Consideration of how to choose a life partner might be helpful for some to understand the strategy which I have come to learn is a version of what has been described by some previously as hardballing. One potential major downside of this strategy is that many people don't know what they want until they meet the right person, which certainly could apply to myself or anyone considering me, however given the enormous amount of time, research, and reflection I've put in to this, I'm skeptical this would be the case for me. I do however find there are many women accepting red flags and overlooking other concerning signs of incompatibility for life partnership, which admittedly I have in my past as well. I can promise you I continue to do everything in my power to grow to be the best partner, husband, father, friend, and contact possible, so that's my plug for giving me a chance.
I am willing to go Kelce for Swift style with my phone number on a bracelet if you help me identify my Swift.
Dating Throughout the US and would consider locations outside for very ideal matches, but don't set dating apps past the US and Canada:
My home base is in Dallas, TX, but I’m mobile and am happy to do any traveling/moving to make dating and relationships easier for the hardworking, ambitious, and successful women with whom I like connecting. I will re-emphasize this because it's unusual and can be a source of confusion, but I am happy to take on all the time and expense, and uproot my location for women I want to meet and then ultimately the woman whose heart I want to win. I have gone on dates throughout the country and even moved to Omaha where my last girlfriend lived once we became exclusive.
My Dating Mantra:
Dating is not just a means to finding a life partner, but a more dynamic process. Most won’t be the “one” and some may not be compatible romantically, but wins come in friends, business contacts, sports/hobby companions, partners for our friends, and other networking. And incremental growth or being touched by or touching the life of others happens more than we realize. We shouldn't become overly focused on finding our life partners without appreciating and being open to the many wins along the way.
Deal Breakers
I don’t date those with children of their own or those not open to or likely to have difficulty having 3 or more biological children, although I'm fine with surrogacy and egg donation if bad luck prevails for my partner and I. I understand that each decision to have another child is best made in the context of life with the current children you have. I also understand many haven't considered how flexible they would like to be on the number of children with their partner and often simply imagine their future family size as the same as the family they grew up with. However, I'm asking you to consider you have an ideally emotionally and financially supportive husband who you love and trust. Would you be willing to consider three or more children for him or would you instead prefer to focus on an equally ideal partner for whom this is not a priority?
I also don't date those with significant active substance abuse or history of addiction/dependence.
I want a partner who believes they can be comfortable with aborting a pregnancy with genetic concerns on prenatal testing. I don't have any major genetic predispositions that increase such risk (as this is a question sometimes asked), however chromosomal abnormalities such as Down syndrome are an example of relatively common idiosyncratic cause. I apologize in advance to the many who will find this triggering to a politically, religiously, socially, and emotionally loaded topic. I respect the woman's ultimate right to choose and change her mind on this issue once they are pregnant (and others right to believe no one should be allowed to have this choice) and would work through the issue at that time, but I'd prefer to find someone who believes they are inclined to this decision as I’d like to do everything I can to avoid committing to a life long union with a woman who ultimately holds the sole decision making of bringing a high needs child into the world, which I feel strongly is something I want to avoid with use of modern technology and have no ethical concerns with such, nor do many women I meet.
Strengths as a Partner and Potential Father
Growth mindset, kind, high integrity/honesty/loyal (always striving for good faith), ambitious, enterprising, diligent, emotionally mature/supportive, strong intellect, financially secure, physically and mentally healthy with strong communication and coping skills, moderately athletic, resilient, come from a solid family, former children's ski school instructor, tall, no balding, good uncorrected vision, limited health issues in myself and family (which I'm happy to share publicly if of greater interest).
Weaknesses:
Many, but let's start with some attention deficit disorder (disorganized, distractible, messy, and major procrastinator who neglects many of life's tasks and dimensions at the expense of specific hyper fixations and interests), Obsessive Compulsive Personality Traits (perfectionist especially around saving, investing, health, self-improvement, emotional intelligence, communication, dating, relationships, good faith, and ethics, which is a manifestation of anxiety), difficulty optimizing grooming, style, posture, and punctuality, even in socially important situations such as dates. I sometimes stutter and often use a lot of filler words. Romance, dating, and planning doesn't come naturally to me but I've done a lot to improve many skills. There are many others, but I try to improve the ones that seem important to those around me, especially my partner. Happy to elaborate on further weakness in the context of anything that might be important to anyone interested.
Description of Me:
Age: 43
Height: 6’3"
Weight: 195-200 lbs
Eyes: hazel/green/blue?
Hoodie: waiting for you to steal
I am a nonspiritual, business owner, investor, and emergency physician emeritus who hasn't practiced clinical medicine for over 3 years due to a re-shifting of priorities and interests after transitioning to a passive role from my most successful investment to date, which re-shifted my financial needs, goals, and position. I dedicate my time and energy to investing, working on myself (personal growth in EQ, communication, confidence, etc), and finding a life partner (settling down and having a family). I don't use any illicit substances including drinking very rarely. My parents and myself are allergic to cats and although I've never been against dating someone with a cat so I don't fully know how persistent my allergy is and how responsive it is to first generation antihistamines (definitely fairly responsive from my past experience) and/or allergy shots. I have never done so and feel like I should at least mention it as I have come across some cat owners who do not want to date people with allergies to them.
Current Family and Family Goals:
I grew up in Wilmington, Delaware, but my family is now in Tucson area [Dad (civil engineer who has an architectural degree as well), mom (retired physician assistant and former assister in regulatory compliance for agrochemical industry), uncle (sports medicine doctor), aunts (nurse midwife and retired former librarian)], Boulder area (nonbiological Bosnian exchange student brother who lived with family in high school and his wife and daughter), and Altadena [greater Los Angeles where sister (partner at big law about to transition to solo practice), brother-in-law (accountant focusing on accounting software development), and niece live].
I have no kids and have never been married (engaged for a month to my first girlfriend). I want kids, with current inclination to be as many to which my partner is agreeable (3 or more is my current preference but obviously to be reassessed together with my partner as we go) and I'm fine with surrogate and open to egg donation in the unfortunate event it's needed.
Financial, Management, and Labor Distribution:
I am a VHNWI (maybe between 15-25 M although I don't keep close tabs and these things can sometimes be difficult to value and fluctuate substantially as they represent large holdings of private businesses and volatile stocks, which is the case for any net worth calculation). I live a relatively simple and inexpensive life independently but have continue to learn to be flexible to the complexities and expenses my partner which I can usually easily afford. I plan to invest heavily on my children's education and assistance with some of the time consuming and sometimes tedious tasks of child rearing. However, I like women who have had independent success and abilities to thrive independently having developed and refined their own craft and skills, so it feels like a strong and balanced partnership and am drawn to successful and ambitious women such as those in finance, lawyers, executives, engineers, entrepreneurs, and doctors. I do appreciate women who are financially successful, thrive, and are valuable in our capitalistic world and I believe there are benefits in terms of lowering financial risks for both parties in the unfortunate event of divorce (which I have put a lot of effort in to learning how to avoid through refinement of my eq and communication which allows me to navigate exceedingly more complex conflicts and people) and imagine there is a more balanced dynamic when both partners are financially secure and thriving. I am also thankful of the additional modeling and genes a strong female figure provides the children and strength it provides the family. Although I come from a family where the men and women work full time throughout childrearing with the exception of maternity/paternity leave, I am open to communication and flexibility in finding the best dynamic for our family. I don't need to work and have few requirements on my time as is and look forward to investing time with my family and am open to the many equitable arrangements that can be established in home and family management and labor needs. I should note that women who like to live above their own means and flash wealth and status are probably not a good fit with me.
Values and Transparency:
I am interested in investing my time, energy, and money in principled (or high integrity or virtuous women if you prefer other terms) and high value women, so I like to be able to easily find indications of values, aspirations, history, emotional intelligence, and/or interests. I prefer transparency upfront, to help us see whether we are interested in developing a connection and getting to know each other further. I hugely appreciate when women are self aware and transparent as to whom they are including values and goals and especially in regard to the things mentioned below that I use to decide with whom to connect as it can be very time consuming and exhausting searching for the women I like to connect with otherwise.
Politics:
I come from a progressive family and schooling and focus on respect, but avoid proselytizing about my support for sustainability, LGBT, and pro-choice to name a few. I consider myself quite low on the spectrum of political interest and activity though. I am open and non-judgmental in immediately sharing any seemingly invasive information others find helpful to identify dates, life partners, or other people with whom they would like to make a meaningful connection, so I prefer you jump right in as I appreciate directness.
Interests:
playing sports 🥏⚽️🏀🎾🏐🏓⛷🏂🏄♂️🏋🏼♂️🤾🏼🏊🏻🚵🏼 pickleball and games. I exercise daily, often through team sports (currently basketball and ultimate frisbee most frequently) and weightlifting. Business, investing, and Warren Buffett have become recent passions over the last couple years, but I've had previous phases I've gone through in triathlons, personal finance, critically acclaimed rock music, emergency medicine, resuscitation, emergency airway management, procedural cadaver labs, etc. Self-improvement is a driver for me and my current focus has been emotional intelligence, dating, fostering attraction, and other soft skills for dating, many which have resulted in growth in areas outside those realms by improving all my interpersonal interactions and relationships. Family, friends, sustainability, honesty, acting in good faith, and simplicity are also core values for me. My parents have a vacation home in Keystone (2 hours from Denver in the Colorado Rockies) that I have frequented in the summers and winters since I was a kid and my father grew up vacationing with his parents in the area as well and my father and his brother both worked for the resort after college where I worked as well as a children's ski school instructor, reservation sales agent, waiter, and bell hop/valet for a year shortly after graduating college and spending a year teaching science at a boarding school. My maternal grandmother also grew up not too far away and I was named after the town of Dillon where my grandfather's vacation condo was in a town close by Keystone.
My Future Goals:
Having an amazing family and multilingual kids with great values who bring a lot of good/value to the world. Developing a network of amazing, admirable, and kind people with exceptional values, diligence, and emotional intelligence. I hope to become an exceptional investor and business man who progresses to investing for my family and friends once I develop a strong and persistent track record with my own funds. Increasing my value through personal growth, expanding my skills and circle of competences, interpersonal skills, reputation, and connections with amazing people, and being especially compassionate, kind, and emotionally regulated to be the best influence of those around me.
Further Professional Pursuits
I'm a couple years in to investing in to individual stocks which I started with an online investment group which focuses on marine shipping and energy with a luckily timed shipping sector bull run followed by an unfortunate market diverging bear run for the sectors. Certainly, some interesting wins (biggest a microcap that I 20x'ed that was the stock for which had been involved in a reverse merger), lots of learning, and educational losses. I helped manage a fraud lawsuit against a majority shareholder and his manager at a free standing emergency room practice who constructed a fraud scheme against their physician minority shareholders. I am also the lead angel investor in my friend/former resident's medical device startup (https://www.endeavormedcorp.com/), continue to invest in my academic niche and have recently found an extremely talented and motivated new business partner in my business niche (emergency medical practice facilities) which is going through a bull phase due to recent significant positive developments in health insurance reimbursement to the practices, and helped with initial capital investment on a 25-year-old's investment partnership after we connected on Reddit in a common interest in Chinese microcap credit service companies, one of which I visited while I was in China with an ex-girlfriend (oddly, the net current assets minus debt were worth more than the entire value of this very profitable and growing company and value of the company was only ~1.5 time the earnings like what was occasionally seen by Benjamin Graham during bear markets in the US decades ago).
Ending
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Pickleball
Pickleball is my go to activity for networking and dating. It requires little coordination to enjoy and is an incredible networking tool through open play, which I feel all single people should be aware of. It's a viral cultural phenomenon, so it's incredibly timely and I just so happen to be a great tour guide and coach because of my background in coaching, education, and passion for it. Many women are nervous about trying, but not one has ever regretted it that I know of.
Opposite Sex Platonic Relationships:
Some women prefer I don't maintain contact with ex-GF1 and other women who I've developed friendships with and sometimes dated, which I've always complied with when requested. But I'll admit, I don't think it's necessary nor do I require the same from my partner with their male friends and exes. I'm good at maintaining clear boundaries and have never cheated emotionally or physically on any partner (nor do I plan to) and don't require such boundaries for my partner as I'm inherently trusting of others to manage these things themselves as they best see fit.
My Tips:
Dating and finding a life partner is not easy for many of us with many significant mistakes made, but I believe the more we invest in improving our skills and abilities (particularly emotional intelligence and communication) required for the process, the more likely we are to achieve any goals we have for our life in the realm and the skills extrapolate to all other areas because of they are fundamental to all relationships. What holds some people back is how difficult and discouraging the process can be (myself included), so consider finding collaborators and mentors to keep you motivated in the process if your relationship goals are important to you. Resources that I've found helpful in improving myself have been using a coach/friend, collaborating with other singles (but be careful trusting all opinions), writing/sharing who I am and what I'm looking for (and opening to feedback), following dating/relationship/life coaches on Reels (Max Butterfield is the best IMO), and putting lots of time and energy in to personal improvement, dating, relationship skills, writing, and reflecting. It has been paying incredible dividends in my search and all aspects of my life. Good luck 🍀 to everyone and let me know if can help and if you have discovered any pearls yourself or see any blind spots.
Thank You for Everyone's Help
Thank you to those who have and continue to help in my quest for building my network of incredible women and finding a life partner with referrals, sharing this website, providing advice, revisions, and more.
43 year old, 6'3" ER physician turned investor/businessman looking across the US for a woman to support and complement in life partnership and children. Ideally kind, virtuous, ambitious, emotionally mature, and open to and likely able to have 3 or more biological kids (surrogacy is fine), but I am flexible on all but the deal breakers mentioned below. I am well groomed for the demands of being a husband and father. Flexible in terms of location as I am happy to bear all the costs (and time) of traveling for dates and moving as well. 😀
Why should you read this and the FAQ?
As I always try to do, I am following the golden rule of doing on to others as I would have them do unto me by making all this information available. I wish others provided more useful information about themselves (who they are, values, future goals, and preferences for dating, partner, friends, and networking) to help make it easier to assess compatibility and interest and know how to treat my date best with the dating experiences they enjoy the most. I do understand that many are initially turned off, confused, and triggered by this approach, but it helps me manage the time and stress of moving through the large volume of women on these app most enjoyably and efficiently to connect with those in which there is mutual interest in doing so. There are actually many useful strategies that others could consider implementing in their own dating to help them execute a more virtuous, efficient, and emotionally intelligent strategy. Please let me know if you have any ideas for other helpful information to include.
Why people benefit from and enjoy connecting with me: kind, transparent, efficient, emotionally mature, ambitious, successful, strong intellect, virtuous, and interest in making people's lives better through listening, learning, teaching, and investing in their growth. Try to embody good faith in all interactions.
Public Social Media Accounts
https://www.instagram.com/dwpaulde/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dillon-paul-md-b238a684/
https://www.facebook.com/woodchuck
Hardballing Strategy:
I (like many) am overwhelmed by the abundance and inefficiency of online dating, particularly the many vague and superficial profiles and lack of self-awareness, confidence, trust, and forthrightness (at a minimum I'd like to know your appearance, educational, and occupational background) that make it difficult to find those in which we have mutual interest in connecting. To help streamline the process, I created this website to outline information about who I am including values and preferences (but I'd prefer you share your interests and preferences so I can simply accommodate to yours if I find them acceptable), and what I look for in women with which to befriend, network, and date. My hope is to reduce the time needed for me to answer and ask important basic fundamental dating questions helpful to assess mutual compatibilty and interest and help make it easier for the women who have the emotional intelligence, availability, values, goals, interests, and personality find me for dating, friendship, and/or networking. The women with whom I like connecting have tons of men wanting to connect with them, as do I have many women who want to connect with me, so it saves us both a lot of time finding the ideal people to connect with by simply being detailed and transparent immediately and less ideal to repeatedly go through the process of drawing information out of people to figure out if we are interested in making connections with each other. Consideration of how to choose a life partner might be helpful for some to understand the strategy which I have come to learn is a version of what has been described by some previously as hardballing. One potential major downside of this strategy is that many people don't know what they want until they meet the right person, which certainly could apply to myself or anyone considering me, however given the enormous amount of time, research, and reflection I've put in to this, I'm skeptical this would be the case for me. I do however find there are many women accepting red flags and overlooking other concerning signs of incompatibility for life partnership, which admittedly I have in my past as well. I can promise you I continue to do everything in my power to grow to be the best partner, husband, father, friend, and contact possible, so that's my plug for giving me a chance.
I am willing to go Kelce for Swift style with my phone number on a bracelet if you help me identify my Swift.
Dating Throughout the US and would consider locations outside for very ideal matches, but don't set dating apps past the US and Canada:
My home base is in Dallas, TX, but I’m mobile and am happy to do any traveling/moving to make dating and relationships easier for the hardworking, ambitious, and successful women with whom I like connecting. I will re-emphasize this because it's unusual and can be a source of confusion, but I am happy to take on all the time and expense, and uproot my location for women I want to meet and then ultimately the woman whose heart I want to win. I have gone on dates throughout the country and even moved to Omaha where my last girlfriend lived once we became exclusive.
My Dating Mantra:
Dating is not just a means to finding a life partner, but a more dynamic process. Most won’t be the “one” and some may not be compatible romantically, but wins come in friends, business contacts, sports/hobby companions, partners for our friends, and other networking. And incremental growth or being touched by or touching the life of others happens more than we realize. We shouldn't become overly focused on finding our life partners without appreciating and being open to the many wins along the way.
Deal Breakers
I don’t date those with children of their own or those not open to or likely to have difficulty having 3 or more biological children, although I'm fine with surrogacy and egg donation if bad luck prevails for my partner and I. I understand that each decision to have another child is best made in the context of life with the current children you have. I also understand many haven't considered how flexible they would like to be on the number of children with their partner and often simply imagine their future family size as the same as the family they grew up with. However, I'm asking you to consider you have an ideally emotionally and financially supportive husband who you love and trust. Would you be willing to consider three or more children for him or would you instead prefer to focus on an equally ideal partner for whom this is not a priority?
I also don't date those with significant active substance abuse or history of addiction/dependence.
I want a partner who believes they can be comfortable with aborting a pregnancy with genetic concerns on prenatal testing. I don't have any major genetic predispositions that increase such risk (as this is a question sometimes asked), however chromosomal abnormalities such as Down syndrome are an example of relatively common idiosyncratic cause. I apologize in advance to the many who will find this triggering to a politically, religiously, socially, and emotionally loaded topic. I respect the woman's ultimate right to choose and change her mind on this issue once they are pregnant (and others right to believe no one should be allowed to have this choice) and would work through the issue at that time, but I'd prefer to find someone who believes they are inclined to this decision as I’d like to do everything I can to avoid committing to a life long union with a woman who ultimately holds the sole decision making of bringing a high needs child into the world, which I feel strongly is something I want to avoid with use of modern technology and have no ethical concerns with such, nor do many women I meet.
Strengths as a Partner and Potential Father
Growth mindset, kind, high integrity/honesty/loyal (always striving for good faith), ambitious, enterprising, diligent, emotionally mature/supportive, strong intellect, financially secure, physically and mentally healthy with strong communication and coping skills, moderately athletic, resilient, come from a solid family, former children's ski school instructor, tall, no balding, good uncorrected vision, limited health issues in myself and family (which I'm happy to share publicly if of greater interest).
Weaknesses:
Many, but let's start with some attention deficit disorder (disorganized, distractible, messy, and major procrastinator who neglects many of life's tasks and dimensions at the expense of specific hyper fixations and interests), Obsessive Compulsive Personality Traits (perfectionist especially around saving, investing, health, self-improvement, emotional intelligence, communication, dating, relationships, good faith, and ethics, which is a manifestation of anxiety), difficulty optimizing grooming, style, posture, and punctuality, even in socially important situations such as dates. I sometimes stutter and often use a lot of filler words. Romance, dating, and planning doesn't come naturally to me but I've done a lot to improve many skills. There are many others, but I try to improve the ones that seem important to those around me, especially my partner. Happy to elaborate on further weakness in the context of anything that might be important to anyone interested.
Description of Me:
Age: 43
Height: 6’3"
Weight: 195-200 lbs
Eyes: hazel/green/blue?
Hoodie: waiting for you to steal
I am a nonspiritual, business owner, investor, and emergency physician emeritus who hasn't practiced clinical medicine for over 3 years due to a re-shifting of priorities and interests after transitioning to a passive role from my most successful investment to date, which re-shifted my financial needs, goals, and position. I dedicate my time and energy to investing, working on myself (personal growth in EQ, communication, confidence, etc), and finding a life partner (settling down and having a family). I don't use any illicit substances including drinking very rarely. My parents and myself are allergic to cats and although I've never been against dating someone with a cat so I don't fully know how persistent my allergy is and how responsive it is to first generation antihistamines (definitely fairly responsive from my past experience) and/or allergy shots. I have never done so and feel like I should at least mention it as I have come across some cat owners who do not want to date people with allergies to them.
Current Family and Family Goals:
I grew up in Wilmington, Delaware, but my family is now in Tucson area [Dad (civil engineer who has an architectural degree as well), mom (retired physician assistant and former assister in regulatory compliance for agrochemical industry), uncle (sports medicine doctor), aunts (nurse midwife and retired former librarian)], Boulder area (nonbiological Bosnian exchange student brother who lived with family in high school and his wife and daughter), and Altadena [greater Los Angeles where sister (partner at big law about to transition to solo practice), brother-in-law (accountant focusing on accounting software development), and niece live].
I have no kids and have never been married (engaged for a month to my first girlfriend). I want kids, with current inclination to be as many to which my partner is agreeable (3 or more is my current preference but obviously to be reassessed together with my partner as we go) and I'm fine with surrogate and open to egg donation in the unfortunate event it's needed.
Financial, Management, and Labor Distribution:
I am a VHNWI (maybe between 15-25 M although I don't keep close tabs and these things can sometimes be difficult to value and fluctuate substantially as they represent large holdings of private businesses and volatile stocks, which is the case for any net worth calculation). I live a relatively simple and inexpensive life independently but have continue to learn to be flexible to the complexities and expenses my partner which I can usually easily afford. I plan to invest heavily on my children's education and assistance with some of the time consuming and sometimes tedious tasks of child rearing. However, I like women who have had independent success and abilities to thrive independently having developed and refined their own craft and skills, so it feels like a strong and balanced partnership and am drawn to successful and ambitious women such as those in finance, lawyers, executives, engineers, entrepreneurs, and doctors. I do appreciate women who are financially successful, thrive, and are valuable in our capitalistic world and I believe there are benefits in terms of lowering financial risks for both parties in the unfortunate event of divorce (which I have put a lot of effort in to learning how to avoid through refinement of my eq and communication which allows me to navigate exceedingly more complex conflicts and people) and imagine there is a more balanced dynamic when both partners are financially secure and thriving. I am also thankful of the additional modeling and genes a strong female figure provides the children and strength it provides the family. Although I come from a family where the men and women work full time throughout childrearing with the exception of maternity/paternity leave, I am open to communication and flexibility in finding the best dynamic for our family. I don't need to work and have few requirements on my time as is and look forward to investing time with my family and am open to the many equitable arrangements that can be established in home and family management and labor needs. I should note that women who like to live above their own means and flash wealth and status are probably not a good fit with me.
Values and Transparency:
I am interested in investing my time, energy, and money in principled (or high integrity or virtuous women if you prefer other terms) and high value women, so I like to be able to easily find indications of values, aspirations, history, emotional intelligence, and/or interests. I prefer transparency upfront, to help us see whether we are interested in developing a connection and getting to know each other further. I hugely appreciate when women are self aware and transparent as to whom they are including values and goals and especially in regard to the things mentioned below that I use to decide with whom to connect as it can be very time consuming and exhausting searching for the women I like to connect with otherwise.
Politics:
I come from a progressive family and schooling and focus on respect, but avoid proselytizing about my support for sustainability, LGBT, and pro-choice to name a few. I consider myself quite low on the spectrum of political interest and activity though. I am open and non-judgmental in immediately sharing any seemingly invasive information others find helpful to identify dates, life partners, or other people with whom they would like to make a meaningful connection, so I prefer you jump right in as I appreciate directness.
Interests:
playing sports 🥏⚽️🏀🎾🏐🏓⛷🏂🏄♂️🏋🏼♂️🤾🏼🏊🏻🚵🏼 pickleball and games. I exercise daily, often through team sports (currently basketball and ultimate frisbee most frequently) and weightlifting. Business, investing, and Warren Buffett have become recent passions over the last couple years, but I've had previous phases I've gone through in triathlons, personal finance, critically acclaimed rock music, emergency medicine, resuscitation, emergency airway management, procedural cadaver labs, etc. Self-improvement is a driver for me and my current focus has been emotional intelligence, dating, fostering attraction, and other soft skills for dating, many which have resulted in growth in areas outside those realms by improving all my interpersonal interactions and relationships. Family, friends, sustainability, honesty, acting in good faith, and simplicity are also core values for me. My parents have a vacation home in Keystone (2 hours from Denver in the Colorado Rockies) that I have frequented in the summers and winters since I was a kid and my father grew up vacationing with his parents in the area as well and my father and his brother both worked for the resort after college where I worked as well as a children's ski school instructor, reservation sales agent, waiter, and bell hop/valet for a year shortly after graduating college and spending a year teaching science at a boarding school. My maternal grandmother also grew up not too far away and I was named after the town of Dillon where my grandfather's vacation condo was in a town close by Keystone.
My Future Goals:
Having an amazing family and multilingual kids with great values who bring a lot of good/value to the world. Developing a network of amazing, admirable, and kind people with exceptional values, diligence, and emotional intelligence. I hope to become an exceptional investor and business man who progresses to investing for my family and friends once I develop a strong and persistent track record with my own funds. Increasing my value through personal growth, expanding my skills and circle of competences, interpersonal skills, reputation, and connections with amazing people, and being especially compassionate, kind, and emotionally regulated to be the best influence of those around me.
Further Professional Pursuits
I'm a couple years in to investing in to individual stocks which I started with an online investment group which focuses on marine shipping and energy with a luckily timed shipping sector bull run followed by an unfortunate market diverging bear run for the sectors. Certainly, some interesting wins (biggest a microcap that I 20x'ed that was the stock for which had been involved in a reverse merger), lots of learning, and educational losses. I helped manage a fraud lawsuit against a majority shareholder and his manager at a free standing emergency room practice who constructed a fraud scheme against their physician minority shareholders. I am also the lead angel investor in my friend/former resident's medical device startup (https://www.endeavormedcorp.com/), continue to invest in my academic niche and have recently found an extremely talented and motivated new business partner in my business niche (emergency medical practice facilities) which is going through a bull phase due to recent significant positive developments in health insurance reimbursement to the practices, and helped with initial capital investment on a 25-year-old's investment partnership after we connected on Reddit in a common interest in Chinese microcap credit service companies, one of which I visited while I was in China with an ex-girlfriend (oddly, the net current assets minus debt were worth more than the entire value of this very profitable and growing company and value of the company was only ~1.5 time the earnings like what was occasionally seen by Benjamin Graham during bear markets in the US decades ago).
Ending
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Pickleball
Pickleball is my go to activity for networking and dating. It requires little coordination to enjoy and is an incredible networking tool through open play, which I feel all single people should be aware of. It's a viral cultural phenomenon, so it's incredibly timely and I just so happen to be a great tour guide and coach because of my background in coaching, education, and passion for it. Many women are nervous about trying, but not one has ever regretted it that I know of.
Opposite Sex Platonic Relationships:
Some women prefer I don't maintain contact with ex-GF1 and other women who I've developed friendships with and sometimes dated, which I've always complied with when requested. But I'll admit, I don't think it's necessary nor do I require the same from my partner with their male friends and exes. I'm good at maintaining clear boundaries and have never cheated emotionally or physically on any partner (nor do I plan to) and don't require such boundaries for my partner as I'm inherently trusting of others to manage these things themselves as they best see fit.
My Tips:
Dating and finding a life partner is not easy for many of us with many significant mistakes made, but I believe the more we invest in improving our skills and abilities (particularly emotional intelligence and communication) required for the process, the more likely we are to achieve any goals we have for our life in the realm and the skills extrapolate to all other areas because of they are fundamental to all relationships. What holds some people back is how difficult and discouraging the process can be (myself included), so consider finding collaborators and mentors to keep you motivated in the process if your relationship goals are important to you. Resources that I've found helpful in improving myself have been using a coach/friend, collaborating with other singles (but be careful trusting all opinions), writing/sharing who I am and what I'm looking for (and opening to feedback), following dating/relationship/life coaches on Reels (Max Butterfield is the best IMO), and putting lots of time and energy in to personal improvement, dating, relationship skills, writing, and reflecting. It has been paying incredible dividends in my search and all aspects of my life. Good luck 🍀 to everyone and let me know if can help and if you have discovered any pearls yourself or see any blind spots.
Thank You for Everyone's Help
Thank you to those who have and continue to help in my quest for building my network of incredible women and finding a life partner with referrals, sharing this website, providing advice, revisions, and more.
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